I hear this question ALL the time from my buddies: “Come on, tell me how to flirt with a girl over text so I can go on a date, get her over to my place, just get her to talk to me more, etc.”
And I tell them the same thing I’ll tell you: if you want to flirt with a girl through text messages effectively, you have to follow some basic but important techniques. In order to accomplish whatever goal you hope to achieve from texting her, whether it’s a date, a hook-up or just her general attention, you can’t just jump right in. The main thing to keep in mind here, no matter which technique you use, is that a girl’s psychology is largely involved.
This is why texting a girl should be done very carefully. Impressing her with words will require some smart messages; that means some situation-related and needed words which will either thrill her or surprise her. And this should only be done by you, not your buddy, as putting the messages in your own words is the best perfect reflection of your personality and eagerness. However, crucial word choice is imperative as some words or sentences have ever-lasting effectiveness on all ages. Think Shakespeare, love poems, etc…
So how do you start? Normally, to draw her attention, small but deep messages are effective. These words can be selected from some tried and true phrases or sentences. You have to keep in mind that you are trying to make her curious about you with your first few messages. Avoid using the same phrases or sentences, or even asking the same questions frequently as this will make her bored. Answer her questions directly sometimes, and other times don’t answer them at all or beat around the bush.
There is another important thing to consider; and it is to make talking to you fun. You have to have fun frequently, but not too much or in the case of serious matters of course, but when it makes sense. Girls like to be happy, they like to laugh and joke around and so, this technique is very important. Be extremely careful not to show too affection to them as this can usually turn them off. When she is not answering your messages, do not annoy her with more. She will respond when she’s ready. She could feel smothered if you start bombarding her with messages over and over.
Try not to get impatient in trying to get a girl like you by flirting through text messaging. Your personality and persistence is the vital thing here, and she will eventually see it and warm up to you, if you do things correctly.
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